Young mum to be
30 weeks .
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Gender?
Its a wonderfully healthy baby girl!
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haha no. im 17. At this age its not something you want or plan but iv accepted it greatly and im positive about the whole thing.
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I am indeed! no reason why i wouldnt! However the plan iv had for basically my whole life has been to work with children or do SNA or something like. Expect now im having second thoughts because then ill be around kids 24/7. It is the only thing i know i how to do tho, iv been working with my mum in the dyslexia association for kids for years now. But im sure everything will work out and if i end up not wanting to do that im sure ill find something :)
Well at first i wasnt really exited because i knew about everything id be missing out on and all that but after maybe two weeks of finding out i was really happy and im exited for all the good bits its gonna bring! Of course im dreding the sleepless nights and all that, but im strong and i know ill get through it :) Well my plans now are to take a year out after the leaving cert, try get a part time job and focus on the baby. And then decide what to do in college during the year.
My families happy about though at least! My mum and dad have always been real laid back so i knew they wouldnt be mad. My dads really exited i think! :P
And thank you for those vibes! i can never get enough of them ;)
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I am not with him anymore but he still wants to be very much involved and i want him to be aswell for the childs sake. Sadly he is the only part of this whole thing thats putting stress on me and the other day i found myself doing 15 minute mediations just so i could text him back :S I also admit its me who gets angry at everything he says for no reason whatsoever but i blame the hormones. We were best friends for ages before i went out with him for around 3 months and i know at some stage we’ll be friends again. Im also pretty sure he could be a good dad.
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No i dont find it offensive, i would really like to know if you are someone who i know but anyway.. Well for 1) iv always said that if this were to happen i would never get one. 2)I would spend the rest of my life thinking ‘what if?’ and id probably drive myself insane!! 3) Because even though im pretty sure allot of people think of me as just a stupid stoner, theres alot more to me! iv been around kids all my life adn i know for a fact ill make a good mother. 4)My amazing dad is old and i dont think he ever expected to see his grandchildren. and i dont think my mum would be too happy if i did get one. And 5) because i never wanted to get one! simple as! I can give this child a much better life then the majority of my friends have! I dont feel the fact that im 17 is going to affect this child atal. yes its affecting what im going to be able to do in life but hey, thats what mums do isnt it? make sacrifices for their children? and im prepared to do so! :)
And for the record iv stopped smoking! witch may not be that impressive to people but i am sooooo proud of myself for that :)
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Both! i have had a few drags on a cig every few days but apparently im doing better than most pregnant people! And as for weed, iv taken 2 pulls on maybe 3 separate occasions and hardly inhaled, it was just for the taste.
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witch weed or smokes? Im hoping to god that im able to quit the smokes completely! and im pretty sure at some stage i will be smoking weed again but only when the child is with its father or when i wont be around it if ya know what i mean. I highly doubt i will ever be smoking at the rate i was.
Frankly atm im loving not being able to smoke. Dont get me wrong i love the bud n all but iv spent the last 4 almost 5 years stoned and having not been smoking for a few months now feels pretty amazing!!
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Do you think your going to do any drugs after the baby is born?
probably not any heavier drugs than weed. Ill be living an example from then on so i wouldnt want it finding out in the future ya know. and like i said before im only going to smoke when im not with it.
and anyway iv kinda done all the drugs that i ever really wanted to do, so i know what im missing out on and im ok with that
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Are you scared to become a mom at such a young age? How did you feel when you found out that you were pregnant?
Ye! Of course im scared but theres no point thinking of the fear because either way im gonna do and i know im gonna be good at it! When i found out i was on the phone to my friend and we were both laughing thinking that i definitely wouldnt be. I had taken a test previously that said i wasnt so i really didnt think i would be. Then i had a few tears but bottled them up because i had to see my sister and my mum like straight after i found out. It was a week before christmas so i really wanted to wait until after christmas to tell them. I lasted until St.stevens day :/ I cant really remember what i initially felt like. I remember the dad coming round and me telling him and i was making lots of jokes because thats all i could think of to do and then i cryed a little more. But i knew straight away i was keeping it. I didnt get excited until maybe two weeks after finding out. Im excited now though, not for all the hard shit but i dont mind. I know we’ll get by all right :)
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The night your baby was concieved?
Well, i would like to start off by saying this was THE ONE time thatwe didnt use protection! And i swer on that!! However it was not a good night..not a good night at all!
Iv been known for not being a very good drunk if i go over my 4 can limit (yes im a lightweight -.-) well needless to say i dont remember anything after i stole can number 5. Apperantly i had allot more then that aswell. I did waaayy too much embarrassing stuff that night, stuff that i am not going to repeat. And to make it all better i dont have any recollection WHATSOEVER of le sex. It wasnt untill the next week when i asked if we used a johnny.
Well at least there was one good outcome of one of tthe worst nights iv ever had out.
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Anonymous asked: arnt you a little young to be having a child? Your going to be a teen mom!
(Thats not ment to be in yellow?)
Ya dont say!! Yes and no… Iv already wrote about this on my ‘young mum..’ page. I am perfectly capable of what im about to come into. In different countries its the norm at my age to be have a child and my body is now at the perfect time for it. The only bad thing i think is all the things im going to miss out on but i am glad to make those sacrifices for such a wonderful gift. I realize how stressful this all going to be and everything so i really dont need a lecture off some anon on the internet. Iv never been happier in my life as i am now and i dont want to imagine my life any other way. :)
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If it wasnt for shows like Teen mom..
I honestly dont think people would have as a bad of a few on most of us. Theres like one good mum out of all of them and the rest make everyone else look so bad. People seem to forget that no matter what age you have a baby at, if its unplanned your gonna have those kinda of mums. And i kind of feel for allot of them, from what iv heard having a newborn is stressful enough and i doubt having cameras every were helps them much. Thats still not an excuse for allot of their issues.
I of course dont plan on being like any of them in any case and iv already happily sacrificed so much and i am going to continue to do so. Most teen mothers arnt much different from other mothers apart from their age. Wish people would not judge so much.
Spread the love and positivity people!!!
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Well i do have many many friends who have parents that smoked allot during pregnancy and a friend that smoked during her pregnancy and there all fine but i just feel guilty whenever i take a pull. Iv hardly taken any drags of anything since i found out i was pregnant which is amazing for me giving i smoked everyday for like 4-5 years. And you can say all you want about that but it would be impossible to have any sideeffects for the amount iv had. Its seriously nothing! But she has no choice :/ Iv adapted well to not smoking and still being around people that do and of course i dont give a shit if other mothers do but i just cant wait until the day i can smoke a joint again and go out for a drink, ill be such a newb again. And yes they will be on days that i dont have her :) I dont even think i ever want to smoke properly again, i feel so much better now that iv stopped! Iv energy and things! Andd atm i only wanna drink so much because its so hard watching all my friends going out and going on about it and i have to go in early and yes i know its the consequences of my actions and im perfectly ok with that, its just theres nothing to show for it yeet! I know it will all pay off in a few weeks and i doubt ill want to go out as much then!
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are you serious??? How on earth am i irresponsible??????please tell me because i have said NOTHING irresponsible. Unless you misunderstood when i said the days i dont have, i mentr the days shes with her dad and that wont be for months but please i would love so much to be told how im irresponsible because i certainly dont see it
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I am not going to be smoking weed around my child or any day that im with her and likewize with drink. I am not going to be dumping my child with my parents, my sister, her dad or his family.
She most likely wont be having full days and nights with her dad untill shes a year AT LEAST so i wont be smoking for AT LEAST that long.
I dont tell anyone else what to do or how to parent so please to be saying things like it to me. I am honestly so shocked my that message because i have been told so differently up to this point and im trying so hard to do things right. That has just confused the shit out of me!
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And so it begins… Trimester 3…
12 more weeks left of pregnancy and only 3 more weeks till my finale exams! I cant believe it!
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Its true ye.. :p
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Its actually the most amazing feeling in the world! In the last week or so whenever i poke back she doesnt just stop kicking but she kicks back, its like we’er playing a game! I love it! Sometimes she sticks her foot out and i just rub it back in! I know it probably sounds so weird but omg it feels soo crazy!
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It was a block class for teens because apparently young people normally dont go to all 5 of the ordinary classes and to be honest i dont think ill go to them after today. It went through all breathing techniques and stuff like that, i thought it was gonna be like the movies were we’er all lying on the floor pretending to give birth but it was nothing like that! Holy fuck i am now proper terrified for going into labour!! We got to see the delivery ward and it was so scary! All the women that were walking around had walking frames and just looked like they were gonna kill someone. There was one women just standing at the end of the hall and when she saw us she lifted up her top and started rubbing her belly..it was so strange. And as well there was a killer smell of poo the second you got onto the third floor :/
All in all though it was very informative and im glad i went! The other girls that were there nice too. I am absolutely wrecked now though and my feet feel like there gonna fall off!
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A good day for babys things!
First of all, my nearest and dearest Irena has gotten me loads of clothes off her cousin which are apperantly really fancy and super cute! I cannot wait to see them!!! AHHH
And my mums friend, who im pretty sure iv have never met out of no were bought us a travel cot, bouncer and a moses basket of a rocker :o New. These are the first non second hand things we have and omg…sound!
Cant wait to have the room done to put them in now!
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Anonymous asked: Do you think you gain more followers because you pregnant? I hope that doesnt sound mean, its just some people find that interesting
Ha i doubt it! Most of the mummy blogs i follow dont follow me back or stay following me for long because well, im not much of a pregnancy blog and i tend to clog their dash with art :p I dont mind though!
And i really couldnt tell you about everyone else, sometimes i notice i loose followers after posting something about being pregnant lol. I dont think it would be that interesting, i hardly post stuff anyway.
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I better not be discriminated against like this for the rest of my life..
So the graduation ceremony in the church went well, although i dunno what priests were thinking when they didnt put in accessible toilets..
But then, when i finally decided that i did want to go to the pub with my whole year and a few of the teachers i obviously didnt think id need I.D because i obviously wouldnt be drinking… fair enough that the little old balding fat man wouldnt let me in because of that but then to go and say..”oh, unmarried mother..or single mothers, is that what they call it these days”…naturally i freaked out a bit, i wasnt shouting or anything but i just started to cry. This stupid old lonely man clearly has never been around a pregnant woman before, im so hormonal as it is, did he really need to rub it in my face that im going to be a single mother.. i cant believe there are still people that old fashioned. There was so much i wanted to say to him but i couldnt because i was tryna hold back my tears loads.
I think when i started crying and some other old man said something to him he was gonna let me in but when he rudely asked if i wanted to go in i just snapped back no and when my mum came to collect she was gonna go say something but i just flipped him off from the window instead.
Thanks for ruining my grad night you sad sad little man.
I really hope i didnt put a downer on the two guys that stayed out with me night!
Still though, Iv graduated.. no more proper school ever! Just a few block classes next week and then a week and half of exams and im DONE!! And i get to only concentrate on my little one who is going to have THE BEST SINGLE PARENTS EVER!!!!
